Habits in the Midst of Chaos


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With many things in life, we develop methods and routines. The way we brush our teeth and get ready for the day, and so on. With a world
of chaos ensuing around us, these habits are an automatic response
of longing for consistency.

From a young age, self-reliance develops habits and in turn, creates an idealized notion that if we do everything we should, then nothing will go wrong.

This goes without saying, but we have no control; regardless of our constant habits. Traffic and natural disasters, blackouts and out of stock items; these and more contribute to this circus of life.

Instead of trusting in our habits and methods, there is One you can place your whole trust in. Jesus is a God of consistency and peace. These two attributes we are striving for, are indeed, promised in a life with Christ.

This world will continue to be a slew of disorder and your life will never be perfect. Regardless of what some religious leaders claim, God will not remove all of your problems and neither can you. However, you can rest in the fact that Jesus is bigger than the issues of life.

He has overcome this chaos.

Madam F.

Copyright © 2014 SarahHardy. All Rights Reserved

Our Journey Awaits


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A journey, adventure and a puzzle characterize marriage and/or being in a relationship. These three titles hold a similar undertone: new. Unfortunately, the monotony of life chips away the newness of a relationship. The mystery of it all fades as habits and personalities become second nature between you and your spouse/significant other.

Regardless of this truth, the newness of experiences does not necessarily have to wear off with years together.
In order to experience new things, you as the couple have to create limitless possibilities for yourselves.

A part from the standard venue of a date night, consider ideas that are out of the ordinary. The possibilities are endless, regardless of the size of your bank account.

Reasons You Should Do This
• New Experiences – Whom else would you rather gain new experiences with than your spouse/significant other?
• Mastery of Saving Money – When thinking outside of the box, new adventures might cost more than movie and dinner. However, the result will be worth it!
• Grow Closer to Each other – How can you not grow closer together when experiencing something like the running of the bulls or riding a subway for the first time? Imagine the stories you will have and the sites you will see!
• Turn Your “Should’ve, Would’ve, Could’ves” to “We did it!” – Whoever said creating goals was a solo effort? As a couple, you will turn your wants and desires for adventure into reality.

Things Holding You Back
• Budget Costs – For some, date nights and bucket list items may be out of your price range. But do not allow this to hamper future expeditions. Save up, instead of dwindling money away for things in the present.
• Time Frames – As with budget costs, your time frame may not allow for some date ideas and bucket list items. Plan! (Even if it is 10yrs in advance.)
• Impossible Expectations – The hazard with creating lists can sometimes be overwhelming. Be realistic when you are thinking out-of-the-box. If it is your lifelong goal to travel to the moon ($155 million round trip), then you might need to consider your income, and so on.

“Let the Fates Decide” (Date Jar)

My sister in law and her husband gave me the idea to pick dates from a “Date Jar”.
This nifty plan changes up their dates, as well as ensuring the anticipation for new experiences.

“The Zealous Planner” (Lists)

Making bucket and date lists are perfect for the individual/couple who loves organization. If you fancy bullet points, then creating checklists are the perfect formula for you to try out. Unexpected experiences can still happen for the detail-oriented planner.

“The Artistic” (Creative Monthly Dates)

Putting in the effort will guarantee the accomplished result. Imagine beyond the ordinary pen and paper and utilize different components. This will make the finished product appealing to the eye and will display your creativity.

“The Goal-Oriented” (Deadline/Plan)

The Deadline Approach is perfect for the individual/couple who have difficulty with finishing things. Setting a deadline will put the fire under you to experience new things that you have wanted to do as a couple but have not done in the past.

If you run out of ideas, here are some great resources:



Your journey awaits,

Madam F.

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The Visionary and The Realist


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Being married to a visionary holds a variety of possibilities that surpass the contained mind of this realist. Thinking into the future can be frightening to one who loves to create lists and set high goals.

Unlike the realist who expects to accomplish every goal, regardless of its impossible time span or nature of that goal, the visionary can focus and achieve, as well as forgive missteps.

Similar to yesterday’s post on stereotypes and titles, the individual who identifies as a “realist” is not only limiting themselves in the eyes of society, but also in their own eyes. Fear of not being enough, which is according to their own standards, consumes them. These flawed standards are a perfectionist, almost Utopian, mindset that will produce disappointment and dissatisfaction.

On the other hand, the individual who identifies with being a “visionary” possesses a limitless identity. This outlook will lead not only to accomplished goals but will also guarantee a confident embrace of human error.

In stating this, consider who you want to be. Personally, the visionary seems more appealing.

Madam F.

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Stereotypes and Society


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A couple weeks ago, my brother-in-law and I were talking on this subject. That conversation sparked this thought. With the sweeping declarations of titles, consider the following post.

Society has saddled individuals with traits and ideals that
have stereotypically evolved with the passing of time. However, unlike
this progression of time, stereotypes have remained static.

Men and women claim titles, based on their beliefs and desires,
personal experiences and life in general. However, many fail to
realize that they are limiting themselves to a stereotype associated
with that title.

These individuals place a limitation on themselves by claiming a title that society is expecting them to fulfill.
This includes those who claim their individuality and say they couldn’t care less about what society will say. Regardless of the “hipster mindset” you attempt to uphold, society will view you through its jaded perspective.

Why would you limit yourself to a title of presupposed stereotypes when you can embrace who God created you to be?

Madam F

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Why Diamonds are a Girl’s Best Friend


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Diamonds, a romanticized accessory of a glittering quality, has affected the past, present and future. These beauties have sparkled their way into music and cinema, ideals and fashion, leaving a lasting impression.

The wearer is in a plight to obtain individuality in a world of social norm. The diamond has paved the way for the individual to avoid invisibility.

This precious gem is a striking contrast to the grey world of pearls and rhinestones. The diamond has set the bar high in its distinction of elegance and class, proclaimed in an unassuming way. When worn, the wearer will accomplish their originality and be different.

Madam F

Photo Credit: http://www.polyvore.com/everyday_is_fashion_show_world/thing?id=36108831


Autumn: A Season of New Beginnings


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With the month of August almost gone, the anticipation for autumn is increasing. Boots and scarves, cooler temperatures and holidays, these long-awaited features fuel the excitement for a new season. Out of the four, autumn is by far, my favorite. The changing leaves and chilly weather signify childhood memories of holidays and joy.


I fondly look back on the times when I purchased new school supplies. During my childhood, our family lived a frugal lifestyle. Shopping was not a common ordeal. Thus, when the beginning of school approached, I was eager to shop; even for school supplies.


Costumes and presents await me in the month of October. Having your birthday a week prior to Halloween certainly has its advantages. Gifts and candy: what more could a kid ask for? Moreover, Nightmare before Christmas (FAVORITE MOVIE EVER) is in full swing in Disneyland’s Haunted Mansion ride. This of course is even more reason to love the month of October.


Races and thanksgiving, the sharing of family recipes and shopping are some of the anticipated highlights in the month of November. An often forgotten month, due to the hype of Christmas, November is a notable time of thankfulness. Without gratitude, life would be a dull existence, void of joy and appreciation.

1601047_10203615281769691_1019722936_nDecember will forever stand as my favorite month of the year. A month of snow (or rain, if you live in California) and Christmas, festivities and traditions, holds a greater significance to my husband and me. This year will celebrate our one year anniversary. I look forward to many more years with my companion and love.


Happy Autumn!

Madam F.


Photo Credit: http://sarsrose.wordpress.com/2013/04/28/autumn-leaves/

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Photo Credit: https://somiddlechild.wordpress.com/category/talkies/page/3/

When Fashion sends You Running for Cover: August Beauty Month


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Fashion has experienced its difficulties in the minds of designers and trendsetters. A vortex of politics and historic events, entrepreneurs and fond musings of the past has created the fashion industry we see today.

Despite good intentions, fashion blunders are occurring in the past and present. Even though a fad existed in popularity ten years prior, does not mean it works today. 

Below are five fashion disasters that have occurred in the last forty years.

Spice Girls *ahem*…fashion.



The Spice Girls and others from the 90’s introduced ripped jeans and the grunge look. Although this decade inspired some creative attire, leading to the revival of 80’s fashion, some of these trends should die. You cannot expect to be taken seriously in a style that is labeled “grunge”.

The Scrunchie.



A hideous concoction of the 80’s that makes any individual appears to be five years old. Colorless (black, blonde or brown) hair ties and bobby pins are the way to go. Regardless of the scrunchie making a comeback, it needs to be retired once and for all

The Mullet.



A haircut that resembles a porcupine should not be a fashion choice. As with the animal, the individual must step away from this blunder before they suffer the consequences of embarrassment.

Who wears Short Shorts?



The high-waisted shorts of the 80’s are returning in controversial forms. Bearing a resemblance to daisy dukes, this clothing item is a disgusting view of your derriere to many unsuspecting individuals.

The Questionable Attire.



The controversial dress worn by Rihanna at the CFDA Fashion Awards mirrors the risqué mindset of the 21st centuryShe and others have made claims to expressing creativity and wanting to mirror a past fashion. However, this plea is crossing the line from what is appropriate to inappropriate.


Madam F.

Spice Girls Photo Credit: http://yourlifeafter25.com/2012/06/14/top-10-worst-fashion-trends-of-all-time/

The Scrunchie Photo Credit: http://www.ninareschovsky.com/london-style-watch-the-scrunchy/

The Mullet Photo Credit: http://www.sodahead.com/living/what-do-you-think-were-some-terrible-fashion-trends/question-1711655/

Short Shorts Photo Credit: http://stephaniereiner.blogspot.com/2013/09/5-fashion-trends-i-cant-get-on-board.html

Rihanna Sheer Dress Photo Credit: http://fashionsnoops360.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/Rihanna.jpg

Fearless in a Pop of Color: August Beauty Month


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We have all been there: standing in front of the mirror, hair pulled back into a topknot, with a perfectly arranged outfit. However, there seems to be something missing. You feel a need to “get your hands dirty” in a way, by messing up the completion of the outfit. Do not ignore that emotion; embrace it.

Don yourself with color! One that will not grab attention, but invite observation and speculation from the passersby. Be fearless in this endeavor for some may not receive your expression of self. As in life, where the hurdles occur, the wearer must be willing to put in the effort to make the details work. 

Color is an expression of emotion and depth. One that will reveal your vulnerability and versatile personality. Be courageous in thinking outside of the norm and embody your values and creativity.

Stand fearless in a pop of color in a graying world.


Madam F.

Photo Credit: http://lineday.co/coeur-de-pirate-true-colors-lyrics-translation/

Ransom at the Ritz: Update


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Be sure to keep an eye out for Rowena and the others in my upcoming sequel, titled The Closing Curtain.

Ten years have passed, since Rowe left Jace on the rooftop. She has rocketed to fame as the renown stage actress, Snow. Living under the guise of a new name and home in Los Angeles, life with Gray has never been better. However, Rowe’s attempt to escape her skeletons soon becomes tricky when events from the past begin to unfold. In these moments, she is faced with the bitterness and unforgiving nature held by her past transgressions.

Madam F.

Copyright © 2014 SarahHardy. All Rights Reserved.

Ransom at the Ritz: Chapter 11


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Rowe kneed Jace in the groin. The latter fell to his knees with a groan. Rowe aimed the gun at Jace’s head. “I am done with your lies.” His face, twisted in pain, with a hint of a sneer. “You are done, when I say you are”, Jace said in a strained voice. He motioned to Dahlia, who stood by, now holding her gun at her side. She neither moved nor spoke. Dahlia was looking at Rowe in a strange way. Was it admiration? Jace looked at Dahlia in exasperation. “Take Rowena’s gun!” Dahlia shook her head. “No, Jace. Rowe is right. Enough lies.” She pointed her gun at Jace.

“Dahlia have you lost your mind?” London questioned. “Not now London. Jace deserves this”, Dahlia answered. London eyed her sister for a moment. She nodded in agreement.

Jace looked alarmed. “What do you think you’re doing?” he demanded. He went to stand up; however, Dahlia pushed the gun into his forehead. “Don’t move”, she warned. Jace looked around the group. Aspen remained at the roof ledge. Gray stood a few feet behind Jace. Neither appeared willing to help.

Dahlia’s change of heart surprised Rowe. She opened her mouth to voice this surprise. However, Dahlia cut her off, “You need to get out of here”, Dahlia advised. “No time for questions. Just know this; I am sorry for Elle’s death. She did not deserve to die.” Rowe nodded. “And I apologize for allowing this creature to destroy our friendship”, Rowe said.

“I am coming with you this time”, Gray urged. “I should have never consented to Jace’s demands of keeping us apart.” Gray took Rowe’s hand and led her toward the rooftop door. Rowe looked over her shoulder at Gavin’s body. “I am sorry”, Rowe whispered to him.

“Running again. Rowena, I will find you”, Jace threatened. She considered Jace. “I count on it. Yet this time, I am not running in fear. I am escaping you and your games.”

Madam F.

Copyright © 2014 SarahHardy. All Rights Reserved.


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